After having our daughter, I finally understood the old adage, “it takes a village”. After bringing the baby home, I was constantly asked, “Is your mother coming to stay with you?” My mother is a great mom, but she lived 5 hours away, has a job, and her own responsibilities. This is when I realized, things have drastically changed for new mothers over the past 30, 20, even 10 years. Your family may come to stay with you for a short time, but realistically, how many friends and family are willing to get the puke stain out of your favorite nursing bra? This is when it hit me. Mommies need other mommies who have been in the trenches and can predict your needs as a new or working mother.
After my maternity leave ended, I wondered how in the world I could do it all. After a long day at work, the last thing I wanted to think about was dinner, laundry, and the general household chaos. There was very little time to sit on the floor and play with my daughter, which was what I wanted to do most. If I did happen to squeeze in a few minutes of playtime with her, I was either laden with work guilt or exhausted.
We talked about nannies, but they didn’t clean. We talked about a cleaning service, but they didn’t go grocery shopping. We had a cleaning service, but they only came every 2 weeks. And boy, we could really make a mess in 2 weeks!
So, I hired someone (my now Mommy Assistant) to come over twice a week. On Mondays, she would go grocery shopping, make dinner for that night, meal prep for the week, do laundry, and pick up the house. On Fridays, she ran errands, picked up the house, and did a little more in-depth cleaning. The mental sanity outweighed the small financial investment tenfold. She knows that I like my daughter’s clothes to be hung up by sleeve length, we love Pirates Booty snacks, and I love fresh flowers on the table. We would be lost without her. We still have her to this day and she has become an integral part of our family.
This is where the concept of a Mommy Assistant was created. What if all moms could have an extra set of hands around the house? So we can do all what we want most in this world: spend time with our kids.
In the development of the idea, I started empathizing with single mothers and those with husbands overseas. These women were doing it ALL on their own. And honestly, I’m not sure I could do the same without going bananas.
A dream of mine would be to create a way to show these amazing women how much they are appreciated and give them a helping hand. My ultimate goal is to create a foundation and donate a portion of the proceeds to help single and military mommies.
I also believe it is absolutely necessary for women to empower women. Moms need help from other moms. New and working mothers need help to maintain a balance, not to mention maintain your sanity during the chaos of modern mommyhood.